Steadfast Gym: Building Fitness and Community

During our last writer's group meeting, in our free writing time, we were given the topic of community as we were meeting in the newly opened community room in our library's addition.

The moment I heard the word community, my mind instantly wandered to my gym family at Steadfast. That day, during my free writing time, this is what poured onto the page.

Community is a beautiful, many-layered thing—like a quilt stitched together with different colors, textures, and stories.

At Steadfast Performance Training and CrossFit Plain City, we’re one big family made up of smaller, close-knit circles. And I’m blessed to have friends in every one of them.

There’s our inspiring Masters CrossFit crew—athletes 60 and up who defy the idea that aging means slowing down. They move, lift, and train with one goal: to stay strong, mobile, and ready for all the life and family moments they love.

Then there are the young athletes—bright-eyed kids sharpening their skills for softball, soccer, and beyond. Not long ago, our powerlifting club was filled with determined high schoolers pushing limits and collecting medals at meets throughout March.

The CrossFit community is our largest and perhaps our most visible. They gather Monday through Saturday for challenging classes, but they also unite for something even deeper—Hero Workouts. On Memorial Day, we honor Lt. Michael Murphy with “Murph”: 300 air squats, 200 push-ups, 100 pull-ups, and two one-mile runs. Every athlete adapts it to their abilities, but the spirit remains the same. On Veterans Day, we take on Chad1000x—1,000 weighted step-ups—to raise awareness for veteran suicide prevention. Once again, the workout is scaled for each participant, but the cause is universal.

Our weightlifting community is a blend of Olympic lifters—snatching and clean-and-jerking with precision—and powerlifters, mastering the squat, bench, and deadlift. This year, I’m stepping into a women’s powerlifting meet alongside other incredible women from Steadfast. Some of us train together, others squeeze in solo sessions during open gym, juggling work, family, and life while chasing PRs.

We also have Strength and Burn athletes. Strength is all about building power through a varied program, while Burn is a quick, fiery session for those who want an intense workout without the full CrossFit time commitment.

What’s beautiful is that no one is confined to just one circle. I’m deep in powerlifting right now, but I still hop into a CrossFit class from time to time. I’ve tried Strength and Burn in the past. I even tease my friends in Masters CrossFit that I’m only eight years away from joining their ranks.

And our community doesn’t stop at the gym door. We collect backpacks and/or school supplies and sweatshirts each fall for DNA (Daily Needs Assistance), helping local families in need. This February, Steadfast led the charge for “The Coldest Night of the Year,” where our team braved the 5K walk and raised over $5,000 for DNA’s mission.

Since joining Steadfast in 2021—right after my son graduated high school—I’ve found more than a place to train. I’ve found a family that celebrates each other’s victories, supports each other through challenges, and uses our collective strength to make a difference in the world around us.

Our Steadfast community reaches beyond the gym walls.  We do school supply and sweatshirt drives in the fall to help DNA (Daily Needs Assistance) who supports local families in need.  This February, Steadfast was the lead sponsor for a big fundraiser "The Coldest Night of the Year."  We had a team that participated in the 5K walk and raised over $5000 for DNA.

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The Story of a Struggling Powerlifter

This is the story of a struggling powerlifter named Liz.

Liz started her physical fitness journey later in the life choosing to dedicate her life to raising her son until he graduated from high school.  She has dabbled in race walking and bodybuilding style strength training until she found Crossfit.  After doing Crossfit for almost 4 years, the opportunity to try something new arose - powerlifting.

Several other women in the gym signed up for a powerlifting meeting in the Spring and Liz was motivated to join them.  Stepping outside her comfort zone, she began powerlifting training.  It hasn't been easy because the Crossfit Open fell in the middle of the powerlifting prep.

Liz had taken some time off work for appointments as well as the Open so the first couple weeks of training didn't seem too bad.  However, returning to a normal hybrid work schedule with 3 days of powerlifting and 2 days of Crossfit has proven to be exhausting for Liz.  By the time her Sunday rest day rolls around, she is so tired it is hard to get out of bed.  She's canceled meeting with her friends outside the Crossfit and powerlifting space twice now.  She's been struggling and failing her bench press.  Something has to give.

After talking with her husband, Liz scheduled a session with a weightlifting coach for help with bench press.  She is hopeful that this will help her over this speed bump in her powerlifting training.

She is also scaling back to one Crossfit class a week.  Liz knows her Crossfit friends will understand the need to scale back as they regularly ask how her powerlifting training is going.  She is targeting two active recovery days with one being on Saturday.  The hope is that by having an active recovery day on Saturday, she will wake up refreshed on Sundays and able to meet up with the friends she's canceled on these past couple of weeks.

Folks, Liz is me.  I'm the struggling powerlifter.  After attending a recent writing group meeting, I was inspired write a story to share my struggles.  The name Liz is a shortened version of Elizabeth, a woman from the Bible. My husband & I also both had grandmothers named Elizabeth. 

While these past few weeks have been challenging, I am not going to give up. I am optimistic that working with a coach on my bench press and my schedule adjustments will be what I need to overcome the failures and fatigue that I have experienced.

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Applying Biblical Principles to Everyday Life: Living God’s Word Daily

The Bible is more than a book we read on Sundays or when we need encouragement—it’s a guide for daily living. God didn’t give us His Word to simply inspire us for a moment, but to shape how we think, how we treat others, and how we live every single day.

When we take biblical principles and apply them to our routines—whether at work, at home, or in our relationships—we begin to see life differently. Decisions become clearer, peace feels closer, and challenges don’t seem as overwhelming because we’re standing on God’s truth, not just our own understanding.

Think of it this way:

• Love your neighbor – It might look like showing kindness to a coworker who’s difficult, or offering patience to your children after a long day.

• Trust in the Lord – It’s choosing faith when uncertainty creeps in, reminding yourself that God has a plan even when you don’t see it.

• Be thankful in all things – Gratitude can shift your perspective, turning ordinary moments into blessings you might have overlooked.

The beauty of applying biblical principles is that it’s not about being perfect—it’s about being faithful. Small choices made daily, rooted in God’s Word, have the power to transform your heart and the atmosphere around you.

Rather than reinvent the wheel, I wanted to link to a blog post at My Bible and God that addresses this very topic.  The blog's author does a great job addressing topics such as anxiety and financial stress which can weigh down everyone, not just those trying to live by Biblical principals.

So, as you go through today, ask yourself: What truth from Scripture can I live out right now? Maybe it’s offering forgiveness, choosing joy, or extending grace. Every step you take in obedience brings you closer to the abundant life God has promised.

Remember—God’s Word isn’t just meant to be read. It’s meant to be lived.

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Rooted in Community: The Power of Small Businesses

Remember that amazing bakery downtown? The one with the delicious cookies? Small businesses like that one give our community its flavor. They make our towns unique and interesting places to live. They are more than just shops; they're the heart of our community.

Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)*

For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Small businesses are the backbone of our local economy. When you support them, you’re helping money flow directly into our community—benefiting everyone.

Looking for a job? Small businesses are a great place to start. They’re major job creators in our towns, often providing that important first job for teens and young adults. In fact, according to the Small Business Administration, small businesses are responsible for about two out of every three new jobs in the U.S. That’s a lot of opportunity right in our own backyard!

These jobs come in all shapes and sizes—from serving coffee to repairing cars. Beyond just a paycheck, small businesses offer the chance to learn valuable skills and build a lasting career.

Did you know small businesses also pay taxes that directly support our community? That money helps fund our schools, parks, roads, and more. The new playground down the street? It might just be there thanks to local business contributions.

When you shop local, your dollar stays local. It supports the business owner, the staff, and even nearby suppliers. That same dollar keeps circulating, strengthening the local economy with each turn.

On the other hand, spending at large corporations often pulls money away from the area. But with small businesses, your support stays home—helping our neighborhoods thrive.

Want something special? Small businesses often sell unique items. You can find gifts, art, and food that you won't find anywhere else. They give us options.

Think about that local bookstore or the handmade jewelry shop. They offer unique goods. These items reflect our community's style.

Tiombe is a small business owner behind the brand "Living on the Butter Side."  Read her story about being an entrepreneur.  

Local businesses do more than just sell goods or services—they invest in the spirit of our town. From sponsoring festivals and concerts to supporting art shows and school events, small businesses help make community gatherings possible.

They bring our neighborhoods to life, creating a vibrant, welcoming atmosphere that makes our town a fun place to live—and a great place to visit.

Think about the last time you met a friend at a cozy coffee shop or browsed the shelves of a charming local bookstore. Small businesses create the spaces where we connect. Whether it’s a cafe, pub, or corner shop, these places help build community and lasting relationships.

Looking for top-notch customer service? Small businesses often shine here. They get to know you—your name, your favorite order, your story. That personal touch makes every visit feel meaningful. It’s not just a transaction—it’s a relationship.

When our town has a need, local businesses are often the first to step up. During challenging times, they’re adaptable and responsive. Remember when masks were in short supply? Local seamstresses and shop owners quickly filled the gap. That’s the kind of commitment small businesses bring.

Over time, their reliable service builds trust and loyalty. Word-of-mouth matters—a happy customer often becomes their best form of advertising. That support helps them grow and continue making a difference.

Small businesses give our town its unique character. They reflect our values, celebrate our creativity, and shape the culture that makes this place feel like home.

They’re more than just shops—they’re part of our lives. Supporting them means investing in a stronger, more connected community.

My Favorite Small Businesses in Plain City, Ohio

These are small businesses that are a regular part of my life.  I have linked to their webpages so you can look them up and consider using them as well.  There are more businesses than this in Plain City but these are the ones that I actively use.

Steadfast Performance Training (Crossfit Plain City)

Ignite Physical Therapy & Performance

Village Massage

HairLoft 120

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Motivate One Another to Acts of Love and Good Works

Imagine a world where kindness spreads like wildfire. A simple act of generosity inspires a chain reaction. People are helping each other, lifting spirits, and making the world better. How can we spark this movement and inspire more acts of love? Let's find out.

What is behind Motivation and Social Influence?

Why do we do what we do? A lot of it comes down to psychology. Ideas like social proof and positive reinforcement play a big role. They can encourage us or hold us back.

Understanding Social Proof and its Impact

Ever notice how popular restaurants seem more appealing? That's social proof in action. We tend to follow the crowd. When we see others doing good deeds, we're more likely to join in. Studies show that people are more altruistic when they see others being kind. It's like kindness is contagious! Seeing others volunteer at a soup kitchen might inspire you to do the same. One person's generosity can ripple outwards.

Overcoming the Bystander Effect

Have you ever heard of the bystander effect? It's when people are less likely to help someone if others are present. It's weird, right? The more people around, the less personal responsibility we feel. It's easy to assume someone else will step in. But we can break this cycle. Take initiative. Be the first to offer assistance. If you see someone struggling, ask if they need help. Your action can prompt others to join. Don't wait for someone else to act.

Positive Reinforcement: Fueling the Fire of Good Deeds

A little appreciation can go a long way. When someone does something good, acknowledge it. Verbal praise is powerful. Recognition programs at work can boost morale. Even a simple thank you can make a difference. When we feel appreciated, we're more likely to repeat the behavior. Positive reinforcement fuels future acts of kindness. Let's celebrate the good in others.

Practical Strategies for Inspiring Love and Good Works

So, how can we put these ideas into action? Let's look at some strategies that can inspire love and good works.

Leading by Example: The Power of Authentic Action

Your actions speak louder than words. If you want to inspire others, start with yourself. Be consistent in your acts of kindness. It doesn't have to be huge. Small gestures can have a big impact. Hold the door open for someone. Offer a smile. Volunteer your time. When people see your genuine efforts, they're more likely to follow suit. Authentic action creates a ripple effect.

Creating Supportive Communities and Networks

We're wired to connect. It's human nature. Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals makes a big difference. Join a group that shares your values. Create a network of support. When you're part of a community, you're more likely to stay motivated. Plus, you can work together to achieve common goals. Find others who want to make a positive impact.  The communities of AA and Steadfast are valuable support networks in my life.

Fostering Empathy and Compassion as Core Values

To build a kinder world, empathy and compassion are key. These traits let us understand and share the feelings of others. When we lack empathy, it's tough to care about their pain. Acts of love become rare. Imagine a neighbor who lost their job. Empathy helps us see their worry and stress. Compassion drives us to offer help. Maybe we bring them food or help them find new work. Without these feelings, we might ignore their struggle. We could miss a chance to make their life a little better. Empathy opens our eyes. Compassion moves us to act with love. They turn good intentions into real change.

Cultivating Empathy Through Active Listening

To understand others, you need to listen. Not just hear, but truly listen. Pay attention to what they're saying. Try to see things from their perspective. Ask questions. Show that you care. Active listening builds empathy. It allows you to connect with people on a deeper level. It can really improve your listening skill.

Practicing Compassion and Kindness in Daily Interactions

Kindness isn't just for special occasions. We should be compassionate everyday. Offer a helping hand to a neighbor. Donate to a local charity. Smile at a stranger. These small acts of kindness can make a big difference in your life. They create a more positive environment.  Never underestimate the power of a kind gesture.

Addressing Personal Biases and Prejudices

We all have biases. It's part of being human. But biases can cloud our judgment. They can prevent us from showing empathy and compassion. Take the time to examine your beliefs. Identify any biases you might hold. Work to overcome them. A more inclusive world starts with you.

Overcoming Obstacles and Maintaining Momentum

It's not always easy to motivate others. There will be challenges and setbacks along the way.

Addressing Resistance and Skepticism

Not everyone will be on board with your efforts. Some people may be resistant to change. Others may be skeptical of your motives. Listen to their concerns. Engage in open dialogue. Try to find common ground. Don't get discouraged by negativity. Focus on those who are willing to help.

Preventing Burnout and Maintaining Motivation

Trying to change the world can be exhausting. It's important to take care of yourself. Set realistic expectations. Don't try to do too much at once. Take breaks when you need them. Find activities that help you recharge. Self-care is essential for long-term motivation.

Celebrating Successes and Learning from Setbacks

Acknowledge your achievements. Celebrate even the smallest victories. Recognizing progress keeps you motivated. And don't be afraid of failure. Setbacks are opportunities for growth. Learn from your mistakes. Use them to improve your approach. Every experience, positive or negative, can teach you something.

Creating a World Filled with Love and Good Works

Motivating each other to acts of love and good works isn't just a nice idea; it's a necessity. By understanding the psychology of motivation, leading by example, and fostering empathy, we can create a ripple effect of kindness that transforms our communities and beyond. So, let's commit to taking action, one good deed at a time. Together, we can build a world filled with love, compassion, and positive change. What good work will you do today?

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St. Patrick’s Day Traditions, Faith, and Fun: Celebrating with Meaning and Joy

Every March 17th, the world seems to turn a little greener—literally! St. Patrick’s Day bursts onto the scene with parades, music, shamrocks, and plenty of Irish pride. It’s a day to honor St. Patrick, the patron saint of Ireland, whose legacy continues to inspire both the faithful and the festive.

From bustling city streets to small-town squares, you’ll find people donning green from head to toe, waving Irish flags, and cheering on lively parades. The air often carries the sound of fiddles, pipes, and spirited Irish tunes that make it hard to stand still. Shamrocks are everywhere—not just because they’re pretty, but because legend says St. Patrick used the three-leaf clover to explain the Holy Trinity. And of course, leprechaun lore adds a playful twist—who hasn’t dreamed of finding a pot of gold at the rainbow’s end?

Tradition also means savoring Irish dishes like corned beef and cabbage or gathering with friends over a meal. Many enjoy raising a pint of Guinness or sipping green beer to toast the day.

For me, as a recovering alcoholic, St. Patrick’s Day is celebrated a little differently—no Guinness, no green beer—but still with joy, community, and gratitude. Sometimes my gym even throws in a St. Patrick’s Day–themed CrossFit workout, and let me tell you, holiday workouts can be tough! We’ll see if one pops up this year.

If you’d like to add a little faith to your celebration, I’ve put together a resource for you below: 7 Scriptures for St. Patrick’s Day. Here is one of my favorites to reflect on while enjoying all the day has to offer:

“The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?”
—Psalm 27:1 (NIV)

However you celebrate—whether you’re running a 5K, enjoying an Irish feast, hitting the gym, or simply wearing your favorite green sweater—may your day be full of friendship, laughter, and a reminder of God’s goodness.

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Can't Stop Texting? Learn What's Driving Your Urge.

Do you find yourself constantly reaching for your phone? Does the thought of being without it make you uneasy? You might be one of many struggling with a texting addiction. Texting addiction is when using text messaging becomes a problem, leading to bad things happening in your life. 

The Modern Texting Landscape

Texting is everywhere these days. It's important to understand how texting became such a big part of our lives.

The Rise of Text Communication

Remember when SMS was the only way to text? Now we have all sorts of instant messaging apps! Texting has really taken off since those old days. This easy way to communicate has changed how we talk to each other.

Texting: A Social Norm?

Texting has become a normal part of how we connect. You probably use it for work, friends, and keeping in touch with family. It’s how many of us stay connected.

The Convenience Factor

It's so easy to fire off a quick text. This ease is why so many people are texting all the time. The convenience of texting is a big part of why it is possibly overused.

Recognizing the Signs of Texting Addiction

How can you tell if you're addicted to texting? Look for these signs.

Excessive Use and Preoccupation

Do you spend hours texting each day? Does thinking about texts fill your thoughts? Planning what to text next may be a sign of a problem.

Withdrawal Symptoms

When you can't text, do you feel anxious? Do you get crabby or restless without your phone? These feelings are like withdrawal symptoms.  While I enjoy getting texts from friends, I sometimes get texts for work so I don't mind quiet periods when I don't get texts.

The Impact of Texting Addiction on Well-being

Too much texting can hurt your health and happiness.

Physical Health Concerns

Staring at your phone can cause eye strain. It can also lead to neck pain, also known as "text neck." You can get carpal tunnel syndrome and even mess up your sleep.

Mental Health Implications

Endless texting can make you feel more anxious or depressed. Ironically, even though you're constantly connected, it can leave you feeling alone.

Relationship Strain

Are you fighting with your partner about your phone use? Is texting getting in the way of face-to-face time? Excessive texting can hurt your relationships with others.  My husband's phone alerts so much between texts and alerts from Microsoft products that it's more rare when the phone is quiet.

Breaking Free: Strategies to Overcome Texting Addiction

It's possible to beat a texting addiction. Here's how.

Set Boundaries and Limits

Decide on certain times when you won't text. Maybe no phones at the dinner table. Use app timers or parental controls to limit how much you text.

Practice Mindful Phone Use

Pay attention to when and why you're texting. Avoid just scrolling and checking without thinking. Be conscious of what you're doing.

Engage in Alternative Activities

Find hobbies that don't involve screens. Spend time with friends and family in person. Get out and do things that make you happy!

Wrap-Up

Texting addiction is a real problem in today's connected world. The signs include excessive use, withdrawal symptoms, and neglecting your responsibilities. If you recognize these signs, it's important to take action. Set limits, be mindful, and find other activities you enjoy. You can regain control and live a happier, healthier life.

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Why Guarding Your Heart Matters More Than You Think

Imagine your heart like a garden. What you plant and nurture there will grow and blossom into everything you do. Now, what if weeds started to take over? That’s why Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." This verse packs a powerful punch! Understanding it can lead to a life filled with purpose, joy, and real meaning. We'll explore just how to do this, and why it matters so much.

Understanding the Heart in Proverbs 4:23

What does "heart" really mean here? It's not just the organ pumping blood. In the Bible, the heart represents the center of who you are, everything about you.

The Heart as the Seat of Emotions and Desires

Your heart is where your feelings live. It holds your passions, your longings, your deepest desires. These feelings can be strong. They drive many choices. If your heart is filled with joy, you’ll likely act joyful. But what if it's full of anger? Understanding this link is huge!

The Heart as the Center of Thought and Will

It is where your thoughts take shape. It influences what you believe and the choices you make every day. What you think in your heart will eventually come out in what you do. This connection between your inner thoughts and your actions is vital. So, take control!

The Heart as the Core of Our Being

The heart is what makes you, you. Your true identity. Your values. It's the compass that guides your steps. What you cherish in your heart reflects who you really are. It's a mirror to your soul.

Why Guarding Your Heart Matters

Why is guarding your heart so crucial? What happens if you don’t protect it? Neglecting your heart can lead to some serious problems.

The Heart's Influence on Our Actions

A guarded heart leads to good behavior. An unguarded heart can lead to sin. Imagine anger taking root. It could cause you to lash out. A heart filled with peace, however, promotes kindness. Inner turmoil often manifests in external actions. So, protecting your heart is very important.

The Heart's Impact on Relationships

A pure heart is important for building healthy relationships. Bitterness and resentment can damage connections with others. If you're holding onto anger, it's hard to be a good friend, spouse, or family member. Protect your heart to nurture stronger, more meaningful relationships.

The Heart's Role in Spiritual Growth

A pure heart helps you to grow closer to God. It enables you to hear His voice and understand His purpose for you. If your heart is cluttered with negativity, it's hard to connect spiritually. Guarding your heart creates space for God.

Practical Ways to Guard Your Heart

So, how can you protect your heart? What are some actionable steps you can take to keep it healthy? Here are some practical ways to guard your heart:

Filling Your Heart with God's Word

Reading the Bible is essential. Meditate on it. Memorize verses. God's Word can transform your heart from the inside out. Look for passages that address issues you face. Let scripture guide you.

Cultivating Healthy Relationships

Surround yourself with positive people. Seek out accountability partners. Build a supportive community. Who you spend time with influences your heart. Choose wisely.

Practicing Forgiveness and Letting Go of Bitterness

Forgiveness is essential for healing and protecting your heart. Hold onto resentment. It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Forgive others. Release past hurts. It frees your heart.

Setting Boundaries and Avoiding Temptation

Establish healthy boundaries. Identify situations that lead to temptation and avoid them. Protect your heart by setting limits. You are the gatekeeper!

Practicing Mindfulness and Gratitude

Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. Practice gratitude. Being mindful helps you stay aware of what's going on inside. Gratitude shifts your focus from negativity to positivity. Try keeping a gratitude journal.

The Promise of a Guarded Heart

What are the rewards of prioritizing heart health? What can you expect when you guard your heart? Let's look at the positive outcomes.

Inner Peace and Joy

Aligning your heart with God's will brings peace and joy. This isn't just happiness. It's a deep sense of well-being that comes from within. It's a gift.

Strength and Resilience

A guarded heart helps you withstand trials. It enables you to overcome challenges. When your heart is strong, you can face anything. It provides resilience.

Purpose and Fulfillment

A pure heart allows you to live a life of purpose. You'll be able to make a positive impact on the world. Living from a place of inner purity brings true fulfillment. It's not about chasing dreams. It's about living a life that matters.

Wrap-Up

Guarding your heart is the most important thing you can do. Everything you do flows from it. Fill it with God's Word, cultivate healthy relationships, practice forgiveness, set boundaries, and practice gratitude. Prioritize your heart health. You'll experience the blessings of a life lived from a place of inner purity. So, start today! Protect your heart and watch your life flourish.

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International Women's Day 2025

International Women's Day shines on March 8th. It is a global tribute to women's amazing achievements. This day honors their strength, smarts, and grit. It also serves as a key moment to push for gender equality. People around the world rally for women's rights. They speak out against bias and for equal chances. Activists, leaders, and everyday folks join to spark change. The goal is to build a better world. It must be a future where all women thrive. They should have respect, dignity, and endless chances. This day reminds us that when women rise, we all rise.

I'd like to use this opportunity to link back to blog posts that I've made about women.

Powerlifting Women: Unleashing Strength and Breaking Barriers

My post about the Proverbs 31 woman was very popular.  These women show virtue and strength.

Women go through menopause and it can be a very challenging time so learn how to support a friend or family member going through menopause.

You can read my story about how I've overcome alcoholism and come to enjoy a life better than I could have ever imagined even if there are some bumps in the road. I couldn't have done it with out some strong, supportive women and a few men, if I'm totally honest.

Let's keep the spirit of International Women's Day going strong all year. Support women, uplift their voices, and push for equal rights. Together, we make the world better, brighter, and fair for everyone. Make every day International Women's Day.

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March 6, 2025 Life Update

Hello!

I thought I'd write a little life update.

Today is my 30 year anniversary with The Ohio State University.  It's kind of funny that I only worked for two and a half hours this morning have the rest of the day as vacation on my work anniversary.  

Since I had the time, I cleaned and redecorated the bookshelf in my home office. This is always in the background when I have virtual work meetings. 

I mentioned in a previous post that I am training for a  powerlifting meet with other women from Steadfast. We received our training program this week. It is a three days a week max effort program for Back Squat, Bench Press, and Deadlift.  One of the women who did the fall Xpand Your Limits meet let us know that we should train with what I've typically referred to as the "men's barbell" which is 45 pounds as that is what we'll use at the meet.  Oh my goodness, ten pounds doesn't sound like much but I found getting the bar out of the holder a bit unwieldy.  I was glad that no one else was in the gym at the time! 

To say that I have a lot to learn is an understatement.  I am so far out of my comfort zone that I would need to use a GPS to return to my comfort zone! 

It just so happens that training for the powerlifting meet coincides with the Crossfit Open.  We find out on Thursday afternoon what our workout will be and then sign up for a Friday night or Saturday morning heat where we complete the workout with a judge and then submit the score in the Crossfit
app.  

I feel like everything that I've ever mentioned in prior posts about finding balance and setting a schedule has gone out the window but it's not a bad thing.  I am blessed to have this opportunity and to have a supportive group of women training for this meet.  This past week, I took one rest day.   I did the Monday and Wednesday Crossfit classes.  Monday's Crossfit class taxed my already sore legs from Saturday's Open workout as well as my shoulders. Based on what I've learned to this point, I know powerlifting training and the Crossfit Open (this week and next week) should be my priority.  I still want to do some Crossfit but I need to look at the workouts and chose what will be less impactful to my powerlifting training.  I'm 52 years old with a history of fibromyalgia so my body doesn't recover as quickly as someone in her 20s or 30s with no muscular/nerve related afflictions.  

My time for blogging and social media have also decreased.  Aside from powerlifting training, I have been busier at work.  I am reposting previous content and also doing more "short form" posts such as an image with a scripture. As of this writing, I have 54 followers on my Santini Serenity Facebook page. This does not account for everyone who reads my blog as I share blog posts through several social media platforms.  I'm thankful that there are scheduling tools that help with this!

My son has been home for Spring Break from college.  Our cat Patty has enjoyed having someone from whom she can beg for attention.  Jon III cooked a delicious chicken and pasta dish for dinner on Monday night; I haven't done any crockpot meals this week as we've had a lot of leftovers from pasta and meatballs that I made during the weekend as well as the meal J3 made.

I believe these are the highlights since my last life update.  If you made it this far, thank you for reading.  I appreciate you!

Tired of Saying "Yes?" Learn to Say "No" Now.

Ever felt stuck saying "yes" when you really wanted to say "no"? Maybe you ended up doing a favor for a friend when you were already stretched thin. Or perhaps you took on extra work tasks that caused you major stress. Saying "yes" too much leads to burnout and resentment, impacting your well-being. "No is a complete sentence" suggests that declining can stand alone without further justification. Embracing "no" is key to safeguarding your time, energy, and relationships. It's essential for a fulfilling life.

This topic came to me after a grief counseling session with OSU EAP for our department. We lost a coworker; a vibrant man who died so young.  Just as the grief counseling session started, I received a Teams message from someone in a different department who asked if I could meet about a report.  I am normally a "Yes" woman but I said I "No, I cannot meet" and asked if we could get together on Monday.  My colleague said it wasn't a problem scheduled a time for us next week. 

Saying "no" isn't selfish; it's self-respect. Learn to use "no" to create a better, more balanced life. This simple word can unlock tons of benefits!

"Matthew 5:37 ESV - Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil."

"No" as a Time Management Tool

Time is precious. Saying "no" to unimportant requests makes room for what truly matters. Start by tracking how you spend your time for a week. Identify time-wasting activities and commitments. Then, begin saying "no" to those things. This frees you up for your goals. Suddenly, you have more time!

Preventing Burnout and Overcommitment

Overloading yourself leads to burnout. When you constantly agree to everything, stress builds. This drains your energy and harms your health. Saying "no" protects you from this. It helps you stay balanced and energized. Don't spread yourself too thin.

The Ripple Effect: Improved Focus and Productivity

Protecting your time with "no" boosts focus. When you're not juggling too many things, you can concentrate. This leads to better work and more output. Learn to say "no", and watch your productivity soar! Dedicate your energy where it counts.

Fear of Disappointing Others

Many fear letting people down. We worry about how others will perceive us. This fear makes it hard to decline requests. This people-pleasing stems from a desire for approval. The idea of rejection can be scary!

Societal Expectations and Gender Roles

Cultural norms shape how we express ourselves. Women, for example, might face pressure to be agreeable. Men may feel the need to appear strong and capable, never refusing a task. These expectations impact our ability to say "no". It's essential to challenge these norms.

The Illusion of Obligation

Sometimes, we feel obligated to say "yes". We think we have to help, even when it hurts us. This sense of duty can be overwhelming. Remember, you have the right to prioritize yourself. There are no such obligations, only expectations.

Saying "no" doesn't have to be rude. It's about being assertive and respectful. With practice, you can set boundaries effectively. It's a vital skill for well-being.

"No" with Explanation vs. "No" Without Explanation

Sometimes, a simple "no" suffices. Other times, a brief explanation helps. If it's a close friend, offer context. However, you don't always owe anyone a reason. A clear, direct "no" can be enough. 

The Power of Delaying Your Response

Feeling pressured? Buy yourself time. Say you need to think about it before answering. This gives you space to assess the request. It also prevents impulsive "yes" answers. Never rush your response.  In AA, we often encourage "practicing the pause" before saying something or making a decision that you might regret later.

Alternative Solutions and Compromises

If you can't say "yes" to the full request, offer an alternative. Maybe you can help partially or suggest someone else. This shows willingness without overcommitting. It's a win-win. Find a middle ground that works.

The art of saying "no" applies to various situations. Here's how to use it effectively in work, family, and personal relationships.

Setting Boundaries at Work: Protecting Your Professional Time

Work can be demanding. Learn to manage your workload. Delegate tasks when possible. Decline unreasonable requests politely. Your time and energy are valuable. Set clear professional boundaries. Don't let work consume you. On my work calendar, I have a block starting at 3 PM each day for several hours that I have marked as "Block - do not schedule." This allows me time to go to the gym and have dinner with my family.

Building Stronger Relationships: "No" as a Foundation for Honesty

Saying "no" honestly strengthens relationships. It fosters authenticity and mutual respect. People appreciate honesty, even if it's not what they want to hear. A genuine "no" builds trust. Strive for authentic connections.

Guilt and anxiety often accompany saying "no". These feelings are normal. But you can learn to manage them. 

Reframing "No": From Rejection to Self-Respect

Change how you view "no". It's not rejection; it's self-respect. You're prioritizing your needs and well-being. This reframe makes it easier to say "no". Value yourself and your time.

Practicing Self-Compassion: Acknowledging Your Limits

Be kind to yourself. Acknowledge your limits and practice self-compassion. It's okay to not be able to do everything. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Self-care is key to inner peace.

Seeking Support: Building a Network of Understanding

Talk to friends, family, or a therapist. Build a network of support. Sharing your struggles makes it easier. Others can offer guidance and encouragement. Seek out understanding and validation. Remember, you're not alone.

Wrap-Up

Saying "no" is essential for well-being, relationships, and personal growth. It allows you to protect your time and energy. It fosters authentic connections. Identify one area where you can practice saying "no". It's time to reclaim your life. Remember, "no" is a complete sentence, a powerful tool.

Resources:

Ryan Robinson Blogging Tools

Matthew 5:37 from  What Does the Bible Say About Saying No?

Bless and Release: Finding Peace Through Letting Go

Ever felt stuck on something? Maybe it is an old hurt or a bad memory? Holding on can be like carrying a heavy weight. It slows you down and makes life harder. There is a better way.  A more peaceful way.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid” (John 14:27).

"Bless and release" is a way to let go with love. It is about freeing yourself. This simple practice boosts how you feel, helps you grow, and brings more joy to your life.  A friend of mine posted about this recently on Facebook so I decided to explore the concept.

Understanding the Concept of Bless and Release

Bless and release comes from some big ideas. It is linked to the power of your mind. It combines ideas from psychology and spirituality. The aim? To help you make peace with your past. Also, to free you to move forward.

The Power of Acceptance

First, you have to accept what is. This is super important before you can let go. Think of "radical acceptance". It means fully accepting reality, even if it hurts. Fighting reality only makes it worse. Acceptance allows you to start healing.

Why We Hold On: Common Reasons

Why is letting go so hard? Often, it is fear. You could worry about the unknown. Attachment is also strong. It can be guilt, thinking you did something wrong. Sometimes, it feels like you have control if you just hold on tighter. Yet, holding on hurts you more.

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Bless and Release

These are not the same thing. Forgiveness is about you deciding to pardon someone. Bless and release is wider. It is about letting go of feelings and attachment. You can bless and release a situation, a person, or even a belief.

The Benefits of Practicing Bless and Release

Doing this can change things for the better. You will feel lighter and happier. Relationships can get better. You will find you grow as a person.

Emotional Freedom and Reduced Stress

Letting go lightens your load. It cuts stress. Holding on to anger or sadness hurts. Releasing them brings peace. You will feel more free and calm.

Improved Relationships

Negative vibes can wreck your relationships. Releasing bad feelings makes room for better ones. This improves current ties and even future ones. Less baggage, more happiness.

Enhanced Personal Growth

When you let go, you open doors. New chances come along. You will learn more about yourself. Releasing the old makes way for new growth. You will amaze yourself.

How to Bless and Release

• It is simple. This is how to do it. Follow these steps to get started:
• Identify What Needs Releasing.
• What are you holding onto? What person, situation, or feeling bugs you? Maybe its an old friend who betrayed you. Or, perhaps it is a job you hated. Name it to tame it.
• Acknowledge and Feel Your Emotions
• Do not push feelings away. Feel them. It is okay to be sad, mad, or hurt. Acknowledge how you feel without judging yourself. Emotions are just visitors.

Applying Bless and Release to Different Areas of Life

This works in many situations. Here are a few:

• Releasing a Past Relationship
• Heartbreak stinks. To heal, bless your ex. Wish them happiness. Thank them for the good times. Now, release them. Focus on your future.
• Letting Go of a Grudge
• Holding a grudge hurts you more than them. Think about why you are mad. Understand it. Then, bless that person. Release the anger. Forgive them. Forgive yourself.  
• For personal experience, you will feel peace when you do this and I can have an amicable relationship with the person I forgave.

Overcoming Challenges in the Bless and Release Process

Sometimes, it is hard.

Do you think you are not good enough? Or, maybe you think you will fail? These beliefs hold you back. Find them. Then, bless them. See them for what they are: just thoughts. Release them.

Your mind might fight back. It is used to holding on. Be patient. Keep practicing. It gets easier.

Did you slip up? Did you get angry again? It is okay. Do not beat yourself up. Just start again. Each day is a new chance.

Wrap-Up

Bless and release is truly powerful. It is a simple act. Yet, it brings amazing freedom and growth. Think of it as gently opening your hand. You release what no longer serves you. Letting go of what weighs you down makes you feel so much better. It opens space for positive change. It improves your life in ways you cannot imagine.

Have you been holding onto something painful? Maybe it's an old hurt or a past mistake. Perhaps it is a fear that keeps you stuck. Bless it with kindness and understanding. Then, release it. Allow it to drift away. See how much lighter you feel.

Try this practice today. Start small, with something simple. Bless an old object with gratitude. Then, release it to someone who needs it. Notice the feeling of freedom and ease. Or bless and release a worry. Acknowledge it without dwelling on it. You will not regret taking this small step. It will help you on your journey.

Resources:

Ryan Robinson Blogging Tools

Christ For You - Scripture Quote

Let It Go Image from The Girl in the Red Shoes