Dear Followers,
I am going to be taking a little break from publishing new content. I'm trying to take my advice about slowing down - Why Slowing Down Can Boost Your Happiness
If you follow Santini Serenity on Facebook, you will see that I am sharing content from other content creators I've met in the space. I am really enjoying the content from Brave Girl.
I appreciate all of my readers and thank you in advance for your patience while I take a brief pause.This blog post is a bit different as I am giving an open and honest life update. I share a lot of scripture and information here that might make it look like I have my life all together. The truth is that I do not!
I do take time each morning for prayer and scripture with God. I'm working on learning to trust His Will for me. I have not been able to figure out what it is as I'm not supposed to figure it out! I'm supposed to let God take the lead and submissively follow. I'm not good at submissively following.
Last week, I made my return to the Columbus office. I got down the street and realized I forgot my travel mug so I came back home to get it. Upon coming out of the garage, I saw I had a headlight out. I know this is illegal and I don't know when it went out. If the car can tell me there might be ice on the road why can't it tell me that I have a headlight out? Anyhow, I took it to Valvoline Instant Oil Change in Lewis Center so it could be be fixed. The young man tried but he said there was a support bar in his way.
I called my husband on my way home and told him that I felt I had no choice but to go to the local mechanic ER Autocare. Jon said it is fine. I told him that he was taking the Jeep over to make sure I got a fair price. Apparently changing a headlight on a Jeep Compass requires removing the front bumper. I'll make a long story short - a walk to Crossfit class and over $300 later, I got my Jeep back. Jon was sitting in my Jeep when I walked out of the gym. I motioned for him to get out of the driver's seat. I wanted to pull my Jeep into the garage as I need go around my son's dead SUV that is residing in part of the driveway. I'm grateful that God's Will was not for my Jeep to end up like my son's SUV! Yes, I'm trying to look at the silver lining to my expensive car repair situation.
Our head coach Michael has been programming extra credit to improve our bench press and jump rope skills. Like most everyone, I've focused on bench press. My friends Kathy, Jodi and Dawn have done extra credit benching with me. My shoulders felt terrible after Monday's workout. I walked to class but no on my hands!! After work on Tuesday, I went to open gym to do my bench press extra credit. I felt like giving up after benching the 35# bar but I didn't. I stopped after set 5 of 10 bench presses at 52.5# which I struggled to lift. The soreness was horrible so I doused myself in "Icy Hot" when I got home. Later on in the evening, I realized that my hands and fingers felt numb. I woke up a few times during the night feeling tingling and numbness. I am scheduled to see our gym PT Carlin on Friday for an assessment. I let Coach Michael and my friends Kathy & Jodi know that I've paused bench press extra credit.
My husband did not know about the numbness in my hands and fingers until Wednesday because he was at a boy scout function all Tuesday night. I don't know if he would have still brought home dirty dish towels for me to wash if he'd known about the numbness. For the record, the dish towels are no longer dirty; I just have to fold them and work with Jon to get them returned to the scout church. Oh, I also have the laundry I did on Tuesday night that remains to be folded.
As I write this, I am mentally and physically exhausted. I need God's REST. During my prayer this morning, I told God that I don't know what His Will is for me but I need his help. Perhaps His Will was making the PT appointment and taking a break from the bench press extra credit. Is His Will only fixing one part of a two part dashboard? I'm not sure about what one yet but it sure feels like it.
If you made it this far, thank you! I know this isn't my normal inspirational blog post. I felt a need to "keep it real" so you all know that I am a human being and not some machine cranking out blog material.
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Curiosity is a powerful driver of success. Inquiry is essential inquiry in both learning and innovation. The idea that there are no stupid questions encourages growth and understanding, empowering us to seek knowledge without fear.
Many people hesitate to ask questions due to fears of looking foolish or wasting time. Here are effective strategies to combat these anxieties:
Approaching situations with an open mind creates a space for exploration without fear of judgment. When you look at the world with fresh eyes, you invite new ways of thinking and understanding. This attitude is powerful. It leads to wonderful discoveries that you might miss if you only stick to old beliefs.
By adopting a beginner's mindset, you allow yourself to be curious. Curiosity opens doors to fresh ideas and viewpoints. Instead of clinging to what you already know, you embrace the unknown. This openness can change how you view challenges. When faced with a problem, you are more likely to consider all angles. You might find solutions you never expected.
Being open-minded helps you connect with others. When you listen without judgment, people feel safe to share their thoughts. This can deepen conversations and enhance relationships. The more you understand others, the richer your experiences become.
This mindset also encourages growth. Each encounter becomes an opportunity to learn. You may discover new interests or talents that you didn't know you had. By welcoming new perspectives, you expand your knowledge. Your world becomes fuller and more exciting.
Embracing an open mind and a beginner's attitude invites exploration and discovery. These qualities enrich your life and broaden your horizons. They help you see things from various angles and lead to personal growth and connection with others.
Understanding different question types enhances your inquiry skills. Here are some categories:
Each type serves a distinct purpose, guiding conversations toward clarity and insight. I don't ask the people who live with me "who will be home for dinner on Saturday night?" I will be wondering all day what to make and how much. I can ease my mind and be adequately prepared by asking a simple question.
To become a skilled questioner, consider these techniques:
Asking follow-up questions enhances understanding and engagement in conversations. For example, when someone opens up about a challenge they have faced, you can respond with a simple question like, "What steps did you take to address it?" This type of inquiry serves two important purposes. First, it shows that you care about what they are saying. When you ask questions, it signals that you are genuinely interested in their experience and feelings. This can build trust and make the other person feel valued.
Second, this question encourages the speaker to share more information. By asking about their actions, you invite them to elaborate on their experience. This can lead to a richer, more meaningful conversation. The more details they provide, the more insights you gain about their thought processes and problem-solving strategies. This exchange not only deepens your understanding but also strengthens the connection between you and the speaker.
In conversations, these follow-up questions can transform simple exchanges into more insightful dialogues. When people feel heard and understood, they are more likely to open up. This creates a positive cycle of communication that benefits both parties. By fostering this kind of environment, you can enrich discussions and build stronger relationships.
Creating an environment where questions are welcomed encourages exploration. Whether in classrooms or workplaces, share tips to foster a curiosity-rich culture:
To get good info, use reliable sources. Libraries are full of books and resources. Academic journals have expert research. Online courses also give lots of info. Coursera has free courses on many subjects. Khan Academy teaches math, science, and more for free. These places offer trusted facts. Use them to learn new things and build your knowledge. Check that your sources are factual. Good sources help you learn and grow.
After you have answered your questions, take a moment to think about what you learned. Reflect on the new ideas that came up during this process. Ask yourself how these insights connect to what you already know. This approach helps you identify any new questions that may have popped up. It’s important to stay curious and keep exploring. This ongoing loop of asking and answering questions keeps your learning journey active and engaging. By regularly reflecting, you reinforce what you’ve learned and open doors to even deeper understanding. This habit of inquiry is essential for personal growth and development. It ensures that you’re not just absorbing information but actively thinking about it.
Asking questions nurtures connections. Whether at work or in personal relationships, showing interest in others fosters trust and collaboration. A simple query like, "What challenges are you facing?" can strengthen bonds significantly.
Curiosity enhances self-awareness and problem-solving skills. Adopting a questioning mindset helps you navigate life's challenges more effectively, leading to greater success in various aspects of life.
In conclusion, embracing curiosity and mastering questioning techniques are essential for personal and professional growth. The habit of asking questions opens doors to innovation, creativity, and stronger relationships. Start asking questions today and watch how it transforms your understanding of the world. Remember, the only stupid question is the one you didn’t ask.
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Everyone has beliefs that shape their view of the world. But where do these beliefs come from? They often arise from a mix of personal experiences. Think about moments in your life that changed how you see things. A kind act from a stranger might lead you to believe in the goodness of people. A tough situation can make you wary and cautious.
Upbringing plays a crucial role too. The values your family instills in you have a lasting impact. If you grew up in a household that valued honesty, you are likely to carry that belief into adulthood. On the other hand, if conflict and mistrust surrounded you, that might shape a more skeptical outlook.
Education is another powerful force. Schools, teachers, and friends introduce new ideas. They challenge your views and expand your thinking. A teacher who inspires you can spark a lifelong interest in a subject. Friends who share their beliefs can influence your views as well.
Collectively, these experiences, upbringing, and education create a framework for how you understand life. They connect in unique ways, shaping your beliefs and guiding your decisions. Every person’s set of beliefs is built on this foundation. Understanding the roots of your beliefs can lead to deeper insights about yourself and those around you.
When faced with disagreements, express your beliefs assertively but not aggressively.
Receiving criticism can sting, but it’s essential to respond constructively. Acknowledge the feedback, thank the person, and calmly share your perspective. Research indicates that those who respond well to criticism often develop stronger relationships.
Being open-minded is crucial for personal growth. Embrace new information that might challenge your beliefs.
Integrate your beliefs into daily choices. Here are some practical ways:
Aligning your actions with your beliefs is essential for developing personal integrity. When your behavior matches what you truly believe, you create a strong sense of self. Living authentically leads to significant improvements in your psychological well-being. You feel more at peace when you are true to yourself. This authenticity brings many benefits. It boosts your confidence, helping you trust your own decisions and abilities. Additionally, living in a way that reflects your true self leads to greater satisfaction in life.
To know your beliefs also means you know your identities. Read my post Who Are You and What are Your Identities understand the role of identification in our lives.
One challenge many face is the fear of judgment from others. It is important to understand that being judged is a normal part of being honest and standing firm in your beliefs. People will have opinions, but that should not stop you from being who you really are. Instead, focus on what feels right to you. Don't overthink it - read my post on How to Stop Overthinking Every Decision you Make. Your feelings and beliefs are valid. By prioritizing your own feelings over others’ opinions, you reinforce your personal integrity and enhance your overall happiness.
Standing firm in your beliefs requires effort, but the rewards are significant. Reflect on your values, learn continuously, and connect with supportive communities. Upholding your beliefs with integrity is an ongoing journey. Apply these strategies, and let your convictions guide your path forward. Remember, true strength comes from within, and your beliefs shape who you are. Embrace your convictions and inspire those around you. Start today by reflecting on what matters most to you.
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Every moment we have is a little treasure. Time doesn’t wait. The ticking clock reminds us that each second is unique. Once gone, it's lost forever. This understanding urges us to cherish our time and use it wisely.
Unlike money, time cannot be earned back once spent. Think about it: we can't buy more hours in a day. It is crucial to see time as a limited resource. Choosing how to fill our days impacts not just our lives but also those around us.
When we view every day as a gift, it transforms our perspective. Each sunrise presents us with a chance to express gratitude. Recognizing this opportunity fuels a more fulfilling life. It’s a way to shift from taking time for granted to treating it as a gift worth celebrating. I wrote a blog post about expressing gratitude which you can read here.
We all have an expiration date. Understanding that mortality is real helps us appreciate life more deeply. It reminds us to live not just for ourselves but for the moments that matter. Did your Mom tell you that it's better to give than to receive? I know mine did and I wrote a blog post about how it can make you feel better.
Many cultures emphasize the gift of life through various lenses. From different faiths to philosophical views, they share one common theme: life is invaluable. This perception encourages us to reflect on our existence and what we contribute to the world. The Christian faith frequently talks about Loving Your Neighbor which is a wonderful way to live life although it might not always be easy.
What drives you? Identifying your purpose can transform your life. When your actions align with your values, every moment feels significant. Break down your passions and see how they connect with what matters most to you. I answered a question for someone on Quora recently about getting traffic to their website. This person was told to give up on poetry as no one wants to read it. I said to continue poetry if that's what they want to do. Here is a link to the poetry site: Heart Touching Poetry.
Everyone has unique gifts. Take the time to explore what you love. Whether it’s art, volunteering, or teaching, when you tap into your strengths, you give life meaning. I have written several posts about establishing goals including this one.
Incorporating simple gratitude practices can uplift your life. Consider starting a gratitude journal. Write down three things you are thankful for each day. Other options include meditation and mindfulness exercises that focus on appreciation.
A simple "thank you" can brighten someone's day. Recognizing others' efforts fosters a culture of appreciation. Kindness is contagious. When we express gratitude to those around us, we encourage them to do the same.
Life isn’t always smooth. Challenges can feel overwhelming, but they often teach us valuable lessons. Embrace the difficult moments as opportunities for growth. Recognizing their value strengthens our resilience. I wrote a post about finding strength through failure which you can read here.
Strong relationships enrich our lives. Spend time with those who matter. Share experiences, listen actively, and build memories. These connections are your support system through ups and downs. Read this post about why friendships matter.
Consider what legacy you wish to leave. When you invest in your community and the planet, your impact can outlive you. Simple acts, like planting trees or advocating for change, leave lasting impressions that inspire others.
Life is about the journey, not just the destination. Find joy in daily activities. Whether it's enjoying nature, sharing laughter with loved ones, or pursuing hobbies, embracing the present fosters a richer experience
Reflect on how you spend your time. What changes can you make to live more intentionally? Start today by expressing gratitude in your life, and you'll find greater fulfillment. The power of gratitude and purpose can shape your life. By recognizing time as a gift, you create a legacy of appreciation. Live fully, love deeply, and express your thanks for every moment.
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The first full day he was gone involved grocery shopping. I arrived at the grocery store to find out that three quarters of the coolers were down so I could not buy some of the items that Jon had instructed me to buy. I bought what I could reminding myself that the cooler issue was beyond my control.
I'll make a long story short; the laundry, cooking, snow removal, other assorted chores along with writing, Crossfit, and my full-time job left me exhausted with a short-fuse. During a phone conversation, he mentioned he has another business trip at the end of March. He hadn't even gotten home yet! I was livid when I went to bed the night he dropped that bomb on me and I slept like garbage.
Negative attitudes can drag you down. Imagine facing a tough day but being stuck in a spiral of pessimism. Your reactions to challenges shape your experiences, which is why changing your mindset can transform your life.
Negative thoughts often slip into our minds without us noticing. Many people experience cognitive distortions, like over-generalizing or catastrophizing. In fact, studies show that about 70% of adults struggle with negative thinking at some point. Recognizing these patterns is the first step in shifting your mindset. I had fallen into the trap of "stinking thinking" which I've written previously; click here to read that post.
Reactions can be automatic and often unhelpful. Think about a time when you reacted negatively to a simple situation—maybe a friend didn't text back right away, and you spiraled into thinking they were mad at you. This kind of reaction can strain relationships. Identifying these habits is crucial for growth.
Limiting beliefs act like invisible chains that hold you back. They can make you feel unworthy or incapable. Breaking these beliefs can unlock your potential. I've endured hard times before and those times can help us increase our faith. You can read more in this post.
Gratitude can change your perspective. Regularly reflecting on what you’re thankful for can boost your mood and overall well-being. Try keeping a gratitude journal. Write down three things you appreciate each day to help shift your focus.
Reframing involves challenging negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. For example, instead of thinking "I can't do this," say "I can learn to do this." A person who practices reframing often experiences less anxiety and more confidence. I've written about changing negative thoughts and how to replace them to be more joyful.
Being kind to yourself is vital. Accepting your imperfections can help foster a more positive attitude. My AA sponsor regularly tells me to be gentle with myself and I lose sight of this when I am overwhelmed. I wrote about the power of being gentle with oneself and you can read it here.
Managing emotions is key to better reactions. Techniques like deep breathing can help you calm down when faced with stress. Taking a moment to breathe can shift your response from impulsive to thoughtful. I did continue my prayer practice during this rough time because, as I've written, we should Pray about everything!
Being assertive means expressing your needs without being disrespectful. Clear communication can improve relationships and foster mutual understanding. I cannot talk to my husband when he's not here but, next time, I should ask for his understanding should I fall behind on chores.
Changing your attitude, approach, mindset, and reactions can significantly improve your life. Focus on understanding your current thoughts and behaviors, cultivating positivity, modifying your approach, practicing mindfulness, and altering your reactions. Embrace this journey of personal transformation. Each small change leads to a more fulfilling life. Your path toward a brighter future starts now.
Recognizing misplaced priorities is the first step in reconnecting with your true self. It can be easy to get caught up in the race for success, pushing aside our spiritual needs and personal values. When achievements feel hollow, it might signal that something is missing from our lives.
Seeking guidance from a higher power can provide clarity and direction. Whether through prayer, meditation, or contemplation, tapping into a source of wisdom can help in understanding one's purpose. This connection often brings peace and insight that worldly success cannot offer.
Realigning your life with a greater purpose can lead to a more fulfilling existence. Identifying what truly matters, such as relationships, personal growth, or contributing to a cause, can bring joy and satisfaction. Taking the time to assess your life can help you shift your focus back to what nurtures your spirit and aligns with your values.
This journey toward a more meaningful life is essential for genuine happiness. When the noise of external achievements fades, you can hear your inner voice guiding you towards fulfillment. This article will explore these ideas further, helping you navigate the path back to a life filled with purpose and contentment.
Prioritizing material gain over spiritual growth may leave a void. Scripture reminds us in Matthew 6:19-21, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth…” Focusing solely on what we earn instead of what we learn can lead to a hollow existence.
Effective prayer connects us to God. Sit in a quiet space, focus on your breath, and speak your heart. Journaling can help. Write down what you’re struggling with or thankful for. Set aside time every day. I'm not so good about journaling but I do try to stop for prayer breaks, especially when I am frustrated.
The Bible offers insight and direction. Psalms 119:105 says, “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.” Focus on passages that resonate with you. Reflect on how they apply to your life. The "Daily Refresh" in the YouVersion Bible app makes studying and learning scripture manageable.
Cultivating a mindset of appreciation can significantly impact your daily life. At the end of each day, take a moment to reflect on your experiences. Write down three specific blessings you encountered throughout the day. This simple yet powerful practice shifts your focus from what you lack to what you have. It encourages you to recognize the abundance present in your life, no matter how small.
Many people rush through their days and forget to pause and appreciate the good things. I'm one of those people some days! Making this a daily habit can train your mind to look for positives, even during tough times. Sometimes, I try to remember to do this every day, but I often forget to jot them down. Even so, the effort to acknowledge blessings can foster gratitude and create a more positive outlook. Embracing this practice regularly can lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.
God's plan unfolds in His own time, not ours. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, "To everything there is a season." It's important to trust the journey and be patient. A popular saying about patience tells us that it's not just about waiting; it’s about how we act while we wait.
As a project manager, I am responsible for schedules, timelines, budgets, and resources. This constant focus on control often leads me to struggle with the idea of "God's Will not Mine." Each day presents a challenge in surrendering my plans for something greater.
Creating a consistent daily routine is essential for setting a positive tone for each day. Start your morning with just 10 minutes of prayer. This brief but meaningful time can help you focus your thoughts and intentions. After praying, take a few moments for meditation. This practice allows you to clear your mind, center your thoughts, and connect deeper with yourself. Following meditation, engage in scripture reading. This can provide inspiration and guidance, helping to shape your mindset for the day ahead.
For several years now, I have made it a habit to begin each day with prayer and Bible study. I use the YouVersion Bible app for this purpose. This simple routine has made a significant impact on my mornings. It helps me approach my day with a sense of peace and purpose. The combination of prayer, meditation, and scripture reading equips me to face daily challenges with confidence and clarity. Whether it's dealing with stress, making decisions, or nurturing relationships, starting my day in this way truly helps me get it right from the start.
Build relationships with those who share your beliefs. A supportive community uplifts and encourages. Look for groups or gatherings that resonate with your journey. My spirituality grew, not at church, but in the rooms of AA. This is not to say that the years I spent going to church were a waste. My years at church were stressful if I'm to be very honest. I spent years dragging my husband and son out the door for 8:30 AM mass. I spent years shoe-horning in every program or volunteer opportunity to church felt I should do. After the pandemic, I did not return to mass, rather, I chose to attend AA. The women's group that I'm part of now is low key yet so beneficial to my life and sobriety.
In closing, identifying misplaced priorities and seeking divine guidance are vital steps for a more meaningful life. Realigning your life with God's plan is a journey of faith and perseverance. Take action today by reflecting on your priorities. Actively seek God's direction, and embrace the path laid before you. Your journey toward fulfillment starts now. How are YOU going to seek His guidance in your life?
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